Catching a glimpse of children happily engaged in pretend play is like witnessing pure magic. Ever wonder how closely you should monitor kindness and safety during group play experiences? Do you find yourself hovering or unintentionally interrupting play? Though parents and caregivers should certainly check in from time to time, it’s important for children to have enough physical space to connect, create, and resolve conflicts on their own.
Here are a few ways we can support group play without getting in the way:
Make a Play Plan
If the children are having a hard time agreeing on specific pretend play roles or scenarios, sit with them for a brief planning session. Begin by acknowledging that the children have different ideas about what or how to play. “Max was trying to tell us who he wants to be in the family. Let’s listen to his ideas without interrupting him. Then it will be your turn to talk.” Once you’ve confirmed that everyone has a clear understanding of their roles and the scenario, take a step back and observe for a bit.
Let Them Problem Solve
Give the group a few minutes to sort through any challenges that arise before stepping in to help. It can feel uncomfortable to hear them struggle, but it’s so good for them to try to figure this stuff out on their own! If you feel like the group truly needs some adult support, encourage the children to speak directly to one another, rather than speaking for them. “It sounds like Sarah wants to cook this pretend pizza on her own. Sarah, you can tell Owen, ‘You can have a turn with this oven when I’m finished.’” After stepping in, reflect on the problem solving process by asking yourself, “As a parent, could I have said or done less?” “Could they have said or done more?”
Take Some Time for Yourself
Make yourself busy in a nearby room and check in periodically. No need to interrupt or ask what they’re up to! Simply peeking or listening in from the hallway (or a separate area of your outdoor space) will give you a sense of their play. Take this time for yourself- for either work or play of your own. Whether you answer a few emails or spend a few minutes doing something you love, this is an opportunity for your children to see you meeting your own needs.
Here are a few of our favorite open-ended toys for group play experiences:
Play Silks
Play silks are the ultimate open-ended toy that foster creativity, movement, and role-playing. Children can use these play silks as a magical river, the walls of a fort, or capes for dress up play. All you need is a little imagination + these eco-friendly play silks… the possibilities are endless!
Way to Play Road Sets
These road sets let imagination pave the way to adventure. The segments can be used on almost any surface, indoors or outdoors, and can be connected to form circuits and roads. Way to Play road segments are made of a durable, hygienic rubber compound that is 100% child safe.
Wooden Rainbow Blocks
This colorful selection of wooden rainbow blocks evokes endless curiosity and visual stimulation for all ages. Children can sort, stack or simply build the rainbow structure of their dreams.
Canvas Playhouse
This modern playhouse is a definite crowd-pleaser. Due to it’s simple design, it supports nearly any pretend play scenario- from setting up to shop to recreating the school day. It’s machine washable and even comes with a travel bag, so your child can bring it along when someone else is hosting!
The Dough Parlour Set
This set features 6 of The Dough Parlour’s most popular colors and scents. Our favorites are bubble gum and banana split! This delightful dough is handmade in Canada; a fresh, fun, and 100% non-toxic sensory play experience.
Looking for more ways to support your child during playdates and social gatherings? You’ll find lots of practical tips in our on-demand class, Positive Language Strategies for Social Settings.
Check out our bestselling Guide to Positive Language Strategies, too! When our children hear us using Positive Language, they are more likely to communicate with others in this way. This approach teaches children that it’s possible to communicate with clarity and respect- even when big feelings are involved.
